our common human experience
The Power of Fear
Perhaps the use of the term evil is a challenge for conversation if the conversation is about exploring our nature so we can learn how to create with our nature. Exploring our common human nature and our intention to do harm with what we say and do and how we say and do things, – our behaviour – and when and how and why we intend to do harm when we do, – and how much our genetic structure, and our experience, and our culture, and our learning from one another about what behaviors are acceptable, effective, expected, and required by our circumstances, our community, and our culture plays a part, – is a good conversation.
From a practical point of view most of us would agree that having the intent to do no harm is a good way to live and a good way to live with ourselves and a good way to live with others if we have the ability to experience empathy, appreciation, and care. And the more empathy, appreciation, and caring we experience, the more able we are to make choices about how we behave, and more able we are to enjoy our creative experience. If, of course. If we see life or choose to see life as a creative experience and if we have an interest in creating our experience.
From my point of view, improving our experience of life is an interest we have in common and a good idea for exploration in conversation about racism and abusive behaviour and an understanding that could play a part for any one with an interest in negotiating their way through life, and focus our attention on observing on our abusive behaviour and the abusive behaviour we experience from those who hold and exercise power over our experience of life a little more consciously.
From my point of view, changing our behaviour is the first step to changing our experience. We are then learning about what we can do and how we can do things, and what we care about, and how we can create with our experience, and with our nature, – our common human nature and our individual human nature, – and with our culture, – who we are and how we go here.
And, we can improve our ability to create with one another and for one another to improve our experience of life as a creative interest, a creative enterprise, and a creative experience as a community.
My Point of View
Why do people commit extreme acts of violence? How do those impacted deal with the aftermath of that violence?? What is the nature of forgiveness?
Empathy has many different definitions that encompass a broad range of emotional states, such as caring for other people and having a desire to help them; experiencing emotions that match another person’s emotions; discerning what another person is thinking or feeling; and making less distinct the differences between the self and the other.
Since empathy involves understanding the emotional states of other people, the way it is characterized is derivative of the way emotions themselves are characterized. If, for example, emotions are taken to be centrally characterized by bodily feelings, then grasping the bodily feelings of another will be central to empathy. On the other hand, if emotions are more centrally characterized by a combination of beliefs and desires, then grasping these beliefs and desires will be more essential to empathy. The ability to imagine oneself as another person is a sophisticated imaginative process. However, the basic capacity to recognize emotions is probably innate and may be achieved unconsciously. Yet it can be trained and achieved with various degrees of intensity or accuracy.
Empathy necessarily has a “more or less” quality. The paradigm case of an empathic interaction, however, involves a person communicating an accurate recognition of the significance of another person’s ongoing intentional actions, associated emotional states, and personal characteristics in a manner that the recognized person can tolerate. Recognitions that are both accurate and tolerable are central features of empathy.
Empathy is our cultural connection with one another, – what we feel, what we care about, what we think, how we see things in common, – ideas about who we are, how we are, what we experience, what we know, what we care about that we have in common. Empathy is our common human connection. It is why we listen to our stories, and why we tell our stories, and why we allow ourselves to be transported by the stories we hear, and the stories we create. We write the stories. We create the stories. We create the experience.
What is our story? What do we want to do? What do we want to create? What do we imagine could happen? What can we do? What are we doing?
The purpose motive
Self direction, mastery, and purpose. We want to get better doing what we like to do and want to do with an intention. The reward is the creative experience. The creative experience excites creative energy. The appreciative experience excites creative energy. It is fun. You get better at it.
When the job becomes more complicated and conceptual creative thinking is required rewards don’t motivate. Challenge, mastery, and making a contribution do. Having a purpose
What is profit? What is purpose? What is contribution?
How we plan
Our plan is what we are doing, what we want to do, and what we imagine could happen.
How we create
We create with our experience, – with what we learn, with what we feel. We create unconsciously and consciously. We create more consciously with appreciative observation, exploration, and consideration of our experience as connections, ideas and opportunities appear.
The Secrets of Persuasion
Kevin Dutton, author of Split-Second Persuasion; The Ancient Art and New Science of Changing Minds, contributed these observations and ideas about the secrets of persuasion to the Association for Science and Reason in Toronto in November 2010.
Persuasion involves both art and science. Nature has equipped us with the essential tools to persuade someone to care for us at birth. Some people have a talent for it and some people don’t but like any skill or aptitude, we can all improve our ability by trial and error, by learning what works and what doesn’t work.
Kevin Dutton’s research suggests there are five key elements to improve our ability to be persuasive in our communications which can be remembered with the acronym SPICE.
- Simplicity – don’t complicate the idea
- Perceived self-interest – people are persuaded when they believe the idea will benefit them
- Incongruity – the tactic which throws off the idea
- Confidence – in the idea
- Empathy – connecting the idea to how and what we care about in our common nature
These are incorporated in the best ads for products, services, and politicians and are also the basis of come-ons for a community of common interest.
“I think the people who read the book will not only learn the tricks of the trade – how to persuade – but they’ll also know what to look for when such persuasion is angled at them,” Mr. Dutton says. “With knowledge comes protection.”
Sometimes our responses are so deep-rooted we simply can’t resist. We discovered long ago that there is safety in numbers. The art of persuasion taps into the brain’s hard-wired preference to be part of a group and our human instinct for self-preservation.
Being part of a group was our first insurance policy. It was extremely important. It is something we have never grown out of. We never will. We’re hard-wired to be part of a group, and one of the real ways of tapping into someone’s perceived self-interest is to say, ‘Look, if you don’t do this, you’re going to be on the outside.’
If you are in a situation and not sure how to act, you are going to look to other people and the norms of that situation. ‘Join your fellow guests in helping to save the environment. In a study conducted in fall 2003, 75 per cent of guests participated in our resource savings program by using their towel more than once.’
Changing Minds – Kevin Dutton
Meetup creates possibilities.Meetup is a platform for finding and building local communities. People use Meetup to meet new people, learn new things, find support, get out of their comfort zones, and pursue their passions, together.
Being part of our group
If we create communication centres to connect and serve the interests of communities of common enterprise we can attract investment in increasing the size of our community from advertisers interested in creating connections with a community of known and demonstrated interest.
Relationships are the new media
Creating with our nature
Creating with our experience
My experience with focus groups is that what people say they will do and won’t do in a room of other people is quite different from what they actually do in real life situations